” I Rarely have the Chance to Do my Job”

“I Rarely Have the Chance to Do My Job” ?  I was intrigued when I first heard this from a client. “Why not?”, I thought, and then I heard the answer: “My boss does my job, her job and several other people’s. She cannot help herself. She has to control to ensure perfection!”   Ah-ha. Got it. So many people fall on one side or the other of micromanaging; dreaded by many and relished by many. It starts as a kid. There are rewards both positive and negative that build micromanagement into a strong muscle that dominates situations. What a challenge for my client and his boss! So, what can he do about this? We talked about several ideas (1) Ask his boss if he is falling short Here is why: As hard as it may seem when you already feel frustrated, there might be an issue for you to recognize in your performance. It can be difficult to communicate with someone who is oblivious about...
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Has a Teammate Thrown You Under the Bus? ©

Okay, A coaching client of mine started a recent December session with "A so called teammate has thrown me under the bus! GRRRR!! Let's talk about an attack plan." What was my advice? Don't attack,strategize. After you take a walk to clear your thoughts, schedule some time for the two of you to chat. If you really want to move on from being thrown under the bus, there are two painful truths you’ll face. For starters, you’re bound to have a really uncomfortable conversation with your co-worker. And more importantly, you need to remember that even the nicest tone could make that person feel like you’re attacking them. Unless that person knows to expect a tough conversation in advance reach out to them and ask if they have a few minutes to chat later that day about the earlier meeting (or wherever it was that the issue took place—be it in person or over email). The next week, she was still fuming...
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